WORK VS PRIVATE
Describe your average work day:
On my bike I cycle to work, which takes me about 30 minutes. Upon arrival in my office I start the workday by opening up the windows and placing water on the table as preparation for my upcoming appointments that day. Of course I don’t forget to get myself a fresh cup of coffee.
Before I dive into my work I may start with a short meditation followed by a few stretching exercises. Every single day is different as I work with people and coach on various topics. It could be about building on inspiration, peace of mind, desires, motivation, personal and professional ambitions. People seek to grow as a human being and professional by exploring life and career themes. My approach is holistic, I always look at the full picture meaning mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. In terms of coaching, I will work alternately with ‘thinking-feel-doing’ interventions so that personal and career issues are looked at different development levels. Homework is given for the purpose of reflecting, gaining new insights and inspiration.
In general I have 2 to 3 coaching sessions per day and prior to the sessions I prepare myself by reading files, homework and/or doing research and last but not least relax by switching off. In between the phone rings and e-mails are answered.
As sessions can be intense, to ensure I have enough energy throughout the day for my clients and myself, I take breaks regularly. And do stretching exercises, go for walk or listen to music. At the end of the day I cycle back to home which is great way of clearing the mind after a day’s work.
Describe your average day off:
Work and private life don’t vary much as on my day’s off I start with stretching exercises and depending on my mood, followed by listing to music. That can be from Bach to rock.
I am a social person. But as it is not the quantity that matters most to me, but the quality, I don’t plan too much but definitely those activities that give me energy. Such as; meeting up with friends and enjoying good conversations, visiting an art gallery for inspiration, doing research to find a nice restaurant for a tasteful meal or going grocery shopping for delicious ingredients for a homecooked dinner.
I also like to be outside in nature. Taking walks on the beach or working with plants and flowers in my garden.
What makes you really happy?
Feeling at ease, looking to the sky, sea, nature and have a good cup of coffee! Socializing with my closest friends, having dinner with delicious food, dancing and listening to music, watching art, having a good laugh, doing nothing, following my creative impulses, energy work, sharing love, walking, cycling and yoga.
What irritates you the most?
Screaming, fighting people, ruthless judgement.
Who inspires you and why?
Bach, because it feels like music of the soul. Listening to Bach will deepen your self-awareness. Beautiful!
What is your favourite place in the world?
I don’t have one place in particular. I like a lot of places and what they have in common is nature. So quite places with varies trees, or mountains with rivers flowing down or the beach with the rustling of the sea.
What is vitality to you?
Balance between the body and mind.
How do you take care of your own vitality?
By incorporating exercising in my daily routine, eating conscious and listing to my energy level. If low, I accept it and do less that day. And vice versa, if the energy is high, I accept that and do more that day.
Which must read/see/follow do you highly recommend?
- C.G. Jung on individuation. The swiss physician and psychiatrist was founder of depth psychology and considered individuation or self-realization to be the main task of human development. An important step in this process is the learning about the project mechanism.
- The projection mechanism is a mechanism in our psyche by which we recognize contents that are dormant in our own unconscious in the outside world. It then becomes, as it were, the projection screen on which we project our inner, unconscious images. In other people, institutions, objects, etc., we see characteristics that often have much less to do with these people and things than we think, and much more with ourselves.
- By gaining insight into this mechanism, a world opens up for you: both the inner and the outer world become clearer. You will learn to see where projections come from and which contents from your unconscious want to make themselves known. This means that the outside world will serve much less as a projection screen, so that you will perceive more clearly, live more smoothly and become much more balanced in all your relationships, from love to work. Karen Hamaker-Zondag has written a good book about this phenomenon.
What is (are) your best tip(s) to share with others?
The awareness that you are more than a ‘thinking head’. Dare to let go of your thinking when you are stuck or tired. Try to connect with the rest of your body by going for a walk, meditating or by listing to music e.g. Feel, enjoy movement and try to do things differently than you were used to do before.
Dare to put question marks behind your statements and believes. Follow your energy levels in your body, it will stimulate your vitality and creativity. Be kind to yourself and live in the ‘now’ instead of past or future.
Dekker Development is a practice in personal and career development. In my practice I guide people and organizations who have questions about their personal and professional development. Change in life and work require your commitment and willingness to keep developing. Through life, work and relationships you are challenged to discover essential aspects in yourself. Who are you? What can you do? What do you want? Questions that invite to explore yourself. I like to support by connecting with your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. I do that in a sensitive, stimulating and creative way. Customization, depending on where you are. Real contact, in depth and no superficiality through which you can recognize, accept, choose and move.
We work towards concrete results through clear questions, reflective space and exercises. That result shows what matters in life and career. Development of self-awareness by making use of the unconscious areas. Click on the logo to visit the website.
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